7ToF: traveling and other thoughts

1. I’m sitting at the gate at our local airport waiting to get on a plane to go visit my mom and my sister in parts south. It’s about 45 degrees here, it’s supposed to be 85 today at my destination. It is really hard to pack for 85 degree weather when it’s 45 degrees out. I kept thinking I should put in a sweatshirt and an extra jacket and some long-sleeved shirts because it will probably be chilly in the evenings (it won’t be). But the good news is it’s only a 5-day trip so I had plenty of room in my suitcase anyway.

2. You know what is totally worth it? TSA pre-check. It’s $80 (I didn’t verify— I think that’s how much it was the last time I re-upped) and it lasts five years. If you travel more than a couple of times a year, it is 100% worth it to not have to worry (much) about the exact amount of toiletries in your carry-on bag, and to keep your shoes on. Not to mention that the line is usually considerably shorter. Two thumbs up. 

3. One of my deepest fears is being bored. And I say deepest because I don’t actually think about it that much, but the first thing I do when I’m getting ready for a trip is make sure I have a bunch of stuff on my e-reader, download whatever word games I want to try, and make sure I have some podcasts and an audiobook or two to listen to. I do that before I pack anything, refill my toiletries, or organize my meds. Also, I think it’s super fun. 

For years I have also been carrying around a physical print book, in case the battery dies on my kindle or some other crazy thing happens. I have not opened that book in years. But it is always in my backpack. 

4. New this time: we decided to buy an iPad because we’ve heard they are great for road trips and we’re planning a (relatively) long one in February and March. I had an iPad years ago but I couldn’t figure out what to do with it— it didn’t seem any more useful than my phone and laptop, and it couldn’t replace either of them. But my impression is that with a Bluetooth keyboard they are a lot more useful these days, and also I am a lot more addicted to my iphone, and apparently it’s like a phone but with a bigger screen. We’ll see. But I do have it with me, so I downloaded a couple of graphic novels which are difficult to read on a paperwhite kindle. I’ve been hearing about Saga for years. I’ll report back.

5. It’s clear to me that as much as I have loved blogging, it’s just not sustainable, given the combo of how the online world works these days and my neurotic insecurities. But I still have a few posts I’ve been meaning to write for a long time, and never did. In fact, one of the main reasons I started blogging again back in January was because I wanted to write those posts. And I still haven’t. So I’m saying it here to make myself do it— when I get back, I’m going to start writing those posts and then I will probably shut down. I don’t know. Every time I say I’m shutting down I end up coming back. 

6. A thing that has become more and more clear to me over the past couple of years is that most people need some sort of spiritual life. Maybe it’s about connecting with the natural world, or with a deeper feeling of meaning, or a richer interior life—maybe it doesn’t need to look the same for everyone the way it did a hundred years ago when there were state and tribal religions. 

But not many people can face life in the modern world armed only with the data from their five senses without succumbing to bleakness and despair. We have allowed those few who can to dictate the spiritual health of educated people for a long time. That’s not necessarily a criticism— most of us who are over-educated have been all-in on getting rid of superstition, ancient prejudices about gender and sexuality, and hyper-morality (loosely) based on ancient texts. 

7. But as someone who was deeply committed to one of those old-fashioned faiths, I can tell you that when you educate yourself out of it, you lose something, and it’s not insignificant.  

So I’ve been trying to be curious. Is there a way to do both? Is there a way to be an educated person who believes in the scientific method and eliminating restrictive patterns of groupthink, but keep the parts of the spiritual life that, uh, for lack of a better phrase, nourish the soul? 

I know that this is not a new thought, not for years now, and books have been written and non-religious churches have been started. But I’ve tried a bunch of that stuff and I haven’t found something yet that works for me. 

You see why I’ve been hesitant to write these. Because who am I to take this on? I’ve started and stopped several times. But I finally realized that the only way I can do it honestly is just to do it for me, and to report back on what works and what doesn’t. My personality type (I know some of you roll your eyes at the Enneagram, but just let me make this point) is a social five with a four wing, and that means I love nothing more than diving deep and coming up with knowledge and wisdom that will serve the group. But if there’s anything that I’ve learned about spirituality over the past forty years, it’s that what’s meaningful to one person isn’t necessarily going to work for any other person. All I can do is report on my own progress, and maybe it will help you figure out your own approach. 

The other drawback is that it seems to me that this kind of thing should be crowd-sourced, and as much as I love any of you who have the patience to read my mess, none of you are commenting and/or participating much these days. So if you have ideas and opinions, I hope you will chime in, or email me.

As I said, I’m typing this at the airport, so I won’t be able to do my usual obsessive re-writing because I’m probably going to forget about it as soon as I arrive at the other end. So if it makes little sense, apologies in advance. I can guarantee you I will regret writing this because now I have to do it and I am so freaking intimidated by this topic. More later.